AP News, Burbank, CA.
Ellen DeGeneres, once the most visible lesbian on television, without resistance, strapped into a straight jacket to become the hostess of America’s hottest daytime TV program.
Okay, so I’m exaggerating. Sure everyone tuning in knows that Ellen is lesbian. The fact creates a wonderful tension when watching her show.
Amazing! Middle America LOVES a lesbian—her cute dance moves, chats about Mom and the quirky warmth Ellen exudes. Or do they?
Recently when a publicist asked me if I would consider appearing on Ellen’s program, I responded, “I’m too gay for Ellen, and definitely too political.”
Ellen, in order to continue to woo America has had to straighten out her act. Once driven from the air for coming OUT, now she wows them on-air everyday.
Perhaps she continues to break down walls and “normalize” the queer experience. Maybe, just at the right moment, she will ultimately use her position as one of America’s best loved talk-show hosts to push the envelope that much further.
But maybe America will continue to love and adore her, only as long as she behaves.
Ellen DeGeneres, once the most visible lesbian on television, without resistance, strapped into a straight jacket to become the hostess of America’s hottest daytime TV program.
Okay, so I’m exaggerating. Sure everyone tuning in knows that Ellen is lesbian. The fact creates a wonderful tension when watching her show.
Amazing! Middle America LOVES a lesbian—her cute dance moves, chats about Mom and the quirky warmth Ellen exudes. Or do they?
Recently when a publicist asked me if I would consider appearing on Ellen’s program, I responded, “I’m too gay for Ellen, and definitely too political.”
Ellen, in order to continue to woo America has had to straighten out her act. Once driven from the air for coming OUT, now she wows them on-air everyday.
Perhaps she continues to break down walls and “normalize” the queer experience. Maybe, just at the right moment, she will ultimately use her position as one of America’s best loved talk-show hosts to push the envelope that much further.
But maybe America will continue to love and adore her, only as long as she behaves.
Comments
Enjoy reading your musings, bro.
Mark
(who will be in Hartford visiting my good mate, Keith, in October)
On the one hand, I agree with you: shouldn't a high profile person of an historically oppressed group use her (or his) position to be an agent of social change?
On the other hand, shouldn't a high profile person of an historically oppressed group just be able to live her (or his) life as a regular human being?
I'm reminded of how tiresome it is for me to "educate" straight people as well as a few gay and lesbian people about what it means for me to be a bisexual woman. I probably don't or won't do half the educating that a transgendered person will do, though.
How do I know if Ellen isn't just tired of educating folks? How do I know if Ellen isn't being faithful to the work she is called to do... or if she isn't wrestling with what may or may not be an intentional choice on her part to "straighten out her act" in order to "woo America"?
I'm curious what the publicist said to you when you responded to her (or his) invitation.
I'm also curious if you'll develop a caricature of Ellen for your performance art. Maybe you already have.
(It's hard to believe that I have not yet made it to any of your performances. How embarrassing!)
Anyway, glad you are around and asking the hard questions.
Blessings,
Liz, The Good Raised Up
I like her precisely because she's not in your face, but simply getting on with having a job in the public eye. Perhaps we need more Ellens in this world. People who can show that being gay doesn't mean you have to be obsessed with it, doesn't mean its the only aspect of your identity and person that people should be interested in. Maybe Ellen is a quiet revolutionary? Getting on with her life and showing that lesbians are people too (even if she doesn't try to overtly "educate" people).
We need those people who just get on with it - quietly showing that being gay isn't all there is to a gay person's life.
(Of course we need our activists as well, but I wouldn't be too quick to write Ellen off...)
I think my blog entry has more to do with America than with Ellen. Lord knows she has done her share to publically speak out about her sexual orientation and queer issues. She should be entitled to just have fun and enjoy the ride.
And hopefully America will continue tune in if she choses to share more of herself with us through her show.
And to Mark, I had a long conversation with a publicist who has been working with me about various venues where I can appear. We had decided right away that Ellen's show is not one for me based on the moratorium that exists about queer issues.