The other day I received the following e-mail from Susanne, a woman who found out her some years ago that her husband has same-sex attractions. I felt so moved by her words that I asked her permission to share them with you on the blog. I (recently) saw your Doin Time... and I was the one who asked about your wife during the discussion period that followed. I just read your thoughts on What About the Spouse ....and I can say, most women who find out their husbands are gay feel ALL of those things you wondered about....some in more degrees than others... When my husband was dragged out of the closet because of his irreverent, immoral, and amoral behavior that our, then, 14 and 16 year old sons had to find on our home computer, I went into the closet. I didn't know what to pray for.... Do I pray that this will go away? Do I pray that he could go back to the way things were in our family before we knew about him,? Do I pray that I could go back to the way things were? After all ,...
Musings of Peterson Toscano, an ex-gay survivor and creator of Doin' Time in the Homo No Mo Halfway House, Transfigurations: Transgressing Gender in the Bible, and Bubble and Squeak podcast.
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Our hope for you is unshaken, for we know that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in our comfort.
2 Corintians 1:7
It is very difficult for me to talk about these things. I will abide with you in prayer.
I'm very sorry to hear about this. I was actually talking to a friend of mine about your post, and she relayed a story about having a mild heart attack at the Toronto Blessing (have you heard of that?)
I guess she thought the chest pains she was having was something demonic. People around her just thought she was really in the spirit but she was just doubled over in pain.
Sounds like a horrible experience...
Thanks for sharing this with us. Guess it is good to think about these things - I mean, sometimes I wonder if I got addicted to these kinds of spiritual experiences in the churches I attended. I look back and wonder how much of what I experienced was actually God, and how much was the emotionalism of the moment - the same kind of hyped-up emotions that would make people not notice what had happened with Brother Felix.
After all, he said he doesn't have a computer or internet anymore.
A friend of mine was at a prayer meeting where someone had an epileptic fit. Everyone thought the holy spirit was blessing her and started praying, 'More Lord, more Lord!'
Thankfully, someone at the prayer meeting was a medical student and realised what was happening.
Its astounding what can happen when people get foccussed on God.
He is always thrilled to hear your comments and insists that he is praying for all of you (which I do not doubt)
Peterson