The other day I received the following e-mail from Susanne, a woman who found out her some years ago that her husband has same-sex attractions. I felt so moved by her words that I asked her permission to share them with you on the blog. I (recently) saw your Doin Time... and I was the one who asked about your wife during the discussion period that followed. I just read your thoughts on What About the Spouse ....and I can say, most women who find out their husbands are gay feel ALL of those things you wondered about....some in more degrees than others... When my husband was dragged out of the closet because of his irreverent, immoral, and amoral behavior that our, then, 14 and 16 year old sons had to find on our home computer, I went into the closet. I didn't know what to pray for.... Do I pray that this will go away? Do I pray that he could go back to the way things were in our family before we knew about him,? Do I pray that I could go back to the way things were? After all ,...
Musings of Peterson Toscano, an ex-gay survivor and creator of Doin' Time in the Homo No Mo Halfway House, Transfigurations: Transgressing Gender in the Bible, and Bubble and Squeak podcast.
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This might be of help for her.
Peace & Love,
Jeffery
I understand you were annoyed that she heard you were ex-gay, it was wrong of people to share that without your permission, but it makes me wonder, were you going to tell here? If not, maybe you should think about that and whether it's fair; you're obviously upset that she has same sex attractions, but you saw no problem when it was just you? How fair is that to her?
Why have you lost faith in the prophesy now, to me it seems like it all fits together even more. She is called to be a wife and mother, you were clearly very exited about the possibility of having a wife, what's wrong? It's going right isn't it?
Sure, the sex maybe a bit awkward, but, Marvin, it is for most couples. We all put up with stuff like that. If you really believe you should follow God's plan, and that the prophesy set you on the path, then follow it. Minister to her, help her achieve what you have, and maybe it will work out.
If it's really God's will, you know...