The other day I received the following e-mail from Susanne, a woman who found out her some years ago that her husband has same-sex attractions. I felt so moved by her words that I asked her permission to share them with you on the blog. I (recently) saw your Doin Time... and I was the one who asked about your wife during the discussion period that followed. I just read your thoughts on What About the Spouse ....and I can say, most women who find out their husbands are gay feel ALL of those things you wondered about....some in more degrees than others... When my husband was dragged out of the closet because of his irreverent, immoral, and amoral behavior that our, then, 14 and 16 year old sons had to find on our home computer, I went into the closet. I didn't know what to pray for.... Do I pray that this will go away? Do I pray that he could go back to the way things were in our family before we knew about him,? Do I pray that I could go back to the way things were? After all ,...
Musings of Peterson Toscano, an ex-gay survivor and creator of Doin' Time in the Homo No Mo Halfway House, Transfigurations: Transgressing Gender in the Bible, and Bubble and Squeak podcast.
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milgram_experiment
You always write well (when are you starting a blog???? :-)
CA, I'll make sure that Marvin gets a print out of that wikipedia page. Thanks!
It can be attractive to simply submit, not have to think, not have to choose what to do but it's never really true. Even if forced at gunpoint to do something, you have a choice. Not a very attractive one, but a choice none the less.
I think it's extremely important that people question authority where it's appropriate. You can't just pick someone, submit to them, and switch your brain off.
You were given the knowledge of good and evil, not to pass it up and let someone else be your concience, but so that you could do what's right, yourself.
You are first of all, and always, responsible for your own actions. And if there is going to be a great judgement at the end, I don't think the argument "but my pastor told me to" is going to cut much wood with the great Judge.
Dang, gone all philosophical. Well, as you may have guessed, I'm not all that good at submitting to authority either. I believe that's a good thing though. I submit only if I choose to. It means I'm awkward, but it also means I can face the mirror (or the Judge) without apology.