The other day I received the following e-mail from Susanne, a woman who found out her some years ago that her husband has same-sex attractions. I felt so moved by her words that I asked her permission to share them with you on the blog. I (recently) saw your Doin Time... and I was the one who asked about your wife during the discussion period that followed. I just read your thoughts on What About the Spouse ....and I can say, most women who find out their husbands are gay feel ALL of those things you wondered about....some in more degrees than others... When my husband was dragged out of the closet because of his irreverent, immoral, and amoral behavior that our, then, 14 and 16 year old sons had to find on our home computer, I went into the closet. I didn't know what to pray for.... Do I pray that this will go away? Do I pray that he could go back to the way things were in our family before we knew about him,? Do I pray that I could go back to the way things were? After all ,...
Musings of Peterson Toscano, an ex-gay survivor and creator of Doin' Time in the Homo No Mo Halfway House, Transfigurations: Transgressing Gender in the Bible, and Bubble and Squeak podcast.
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Marvin, you know, this post brought back so many bad memories for me of church experiences. Why are churches such toxic places much of the time?
I feel very badly for Soon, and for you as well.
I really hope that you (or your pastor?) will be able to do something about this bully on a power trip...
Sounds to me like someone had sex on the brain (no, not you and Soon). I rather wonder if he wasn't disappointed to find you praying...it's much harder to pleasure one's self to an image of people praying than...well, you know. Maybe you guys should start praying for Brother what's-his-name to get "victory" over his thought life. =)
j.