In which Marvin recounts the cosmic backlash to his recent post about spiritual warfare--skeletons in the closet, sex demons in his bed and the Memorial Day frontal assault!
The other day I received the following e-mail from Susanne, a woman who found out her some years ago that her husband has same-sex attractions. I felt so moved by her words that I asked her permission to share them with you on the blog. I (recently) saw your Doin Time... and I was the one who asked about your wife during the discussion period that followed. I just read your thoughts on What About the Spouse ....and I can say, most women who find out their husbands are gay feel ALL of those things you wondered about....some in more degrees than others... When my husband was dragged out of the closet because of his irreverent, immoral, and amoral behavior that our, then, 14 and 16 year old sons had to find on our home computer, I went into the closet. I didn't know what to pray for.... Do I pray that this will go away? Do I pray that he could go back to the way things were in our family before we knew about him,? Do I pray that I could go back to the way things were? After all ,...
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I'm sorry you feel that way about your ex. I understand that it's painful to see him again, but he must have been surprised to get such an angry reaction from you.
Maybe if you hadn't been looking for demons everywhere, you, him and your mum might have spent a nice afternoon together. Does being a Christian mean you're not allowed to have a good time with people who you know, and who know you, and who obviously care about you in some way?
Here's me praying that you will learn to let go of your demons, superstitions and fear, and learn to just live your life as you were meant to.
Love,
Willie
The friendship bore fruit, though. He was there for me in some very crucial moments, and I was able to minister to him in some of his struggles and remained part of his family.
I was heartbroken when he died (44 is too young). I know it's not possible or healthy for a lot of folks to be friends after breaking up, but I was richly blessed by working through my anger at Brian, learning to stop de-humanizing him, and being a friend while I had the chance.
Whatever happens, I'm sure you know what's best for you. I just wish you peace, my friend...
It's good to catch up with your little war, although I have a bizarre hunch that rebuking your mother may have been taking it a little over the top. I like what nillo said about figuring out why you feel so strongly about your SSA's. Perhaps it's time to sit down and take a deep, honest look at the real reason behind your zealousness.
j.