The other day I received the following e-mail from Susanne, a woman who found out her some years ago that her husband has same-sex attractions. I felt so moved by her words that I asked her permission to share them with you on the blog. I (recently) saw your Doin Time... and I was the one who asked about your wife during the discussion period that followed. I just read your thoughts on What About the Spouse ....and I can say, most women who find out their husbands are gay feel ALL of those things you wondered about....some in more degrees than others... When my husband was dragged out of the closet because of his irreverent, immoral, and amoral behavior that our, then, 14 and 16 year old sons had to find on our home computer, I went into the closet. I didn't know what to pray for.... Do I pray that this will go away? Do I pray that he could go back to the way things were in our family before we knew about him,? Do I pray that I could go back to the way things were? After all ,...
Musings of Peterson Toscano, an ex-gay survivor and creator of Doin' Time in the Homo No Mo Halfway House, Transfigurations: Transgressing Gender in the Bible, and Bubble and Squeak podcast.
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I am so sad that it brought up all this crap for you.
When I was growing up, I always wanted to work with kids. I wanted to be a missionary. I wanted to teach.
And the first thing someone said to me when I came out was, "Well you can forget about working with kids." And this was from a friend who was gay! I was so upset about that.
And that whole not being able to work with kids thing has been a very painful thing with me, as I think I've written to you about previously (I hope Peterson has been able to get you our comments; I know he's been so busy lately).
Anyway, I know how it feels. And I still think it was good you wrote the letter...
And Willie is right - you are a child of God and there is not a thing wrong with you.