The other day I received the following e-mail from Susanne, a woman who found out her some years ago that her husband has same-sex attractions. I felt so moved by her words that I asked her permission to share them with you on the blog. I (recently) saw your Doin Time... and I was the one who asked about your wife during the discussion period that followed. I just read your thoughts on What About the Spouse ....and I can say, most women who find out their husbands are gay feel ALL of those things you wondered about....some in more degrees than others... When my husband was dragged out of the closet because of his irreverent, immoral, and amoral behavior that our, then, 14 and 16 year old sons had to find on our home computer, I went into the closet. I didn't know what to pray for.... Do I pray that this will go away? Do I pray that he could go back to the way things were in our family before we knew about him,? Do I pray that I could go back to the way things were? After all ,...
Musings of Peterson Toscano, an ex-gay survivor and creator of Doin' Time in the Homo No Mo Halfway House, Transfigurations: Transgressing Gender in the Bible, and Bubble and Squeak podcast.
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Y'know, I haven't heard you mentioning much about friends. I know about Dolly, and your other friends from church, and a little about your mom. (I'm glad to hear you and Mom are communicating since she orchestrated the demonic attack with your ex a while back -- is there any outstanding tension?)
Do you have anybody who could drop by to watch a silly DVD with you while you're laid up? A buddy (male or female) who knows what kind of food you like who could surprise you with a favorite treat?
I try to be that kind of friend, often not successfully, and I hope you have some similar support at a time like this.