The other day I received the following e-mail from Susanne, a woman who found out her some years ago that her husband has same-sex attractions. I felt so moved by her words that I asked her permission to share them with you on the blog. I (recently) saw your Doin Time... and I was the one who asked about your wife during the discussion period that followed. I just read your thoughts on What About the Spouse ....and I can say, most women who find out their husbands are gay feel ALL of those things you wondered about....some in more degrees than others... When my husband was dragged out of the closet because of his irreverent, immoral, and amoral behavior that our, then, 14 and 16 year old sons had to find on our home computer, I went into the closet. I didn't know what to pray for.... Do I pray that this will go away? Do I pray that he could go back to the way things were in our family before we knew about him,? Do I pray that I could go back to the way things were? After all ,...
Musings of Peterson Toscano, an ex-gay survivor and creator of Doin' Time in the Homo No Mo Halfway House, Transfigurations: Transgressing Gender in the Bible, and Bubble and Squeak podcast.
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I really don't think this is a matter of prosecution, I think it's a matter of you touting your personal beliefs in a professional environment, which just isn't appropriate. Although I have to say what that customer said to you was inappropriate too. Was he flirting with you or something?
I used to be a salesperson at an electronics store too. :) I have a better job now, hope you'll find one too.
Now, I have to tell you Marvin that I'm pretty certain that this persecution complex, while very prevelant these days, isn't really warranted here. At my job, I would be fired if I spoke that way to a customer. Or, let's say I was a gay person and I laid it on one of my customers really hard and he was offended. I would probably be in some hot water.
It doesn't matter how right our beliefs are, if we don't communicate them in an appropriate manner, then we've lost our audience. Having said that, we can't continue to look at the past. Now is the time to collect your unemployment (yes, humble yourself a bit, go back to your former employer and get the paper work you need), maybe expand your evangelistic work. Heck, maybe Randy Thomas over at Exodus would be interested in hiring you as a spokesperson. Randy's a good guy you know.
All the best Marvin!
j.
I am sorry you lost your job though. Keep faith, Mr. Marvin, and don't let all that harsh judgment you are laying on yourself spill over onto anyone else.
Peace and blessings,
I think that it's ironic that you work at an electronics store that sells gigantic flat screen televisions.
Kudos for putting that man with all the jewelry and designer clothes in his place. I probably would have done the same thing if someone said that to me when I was at work, because 1) it's inappropriate and rude to say such things to a sales representative at a store of any kind, 2) it's sexual harrassment, and 3) people selling to customers don't really care what they use the material object for, they are just there to sell the product, not listen to the life story of the customers. I agree that this would be an incident worth getting fired over.