The other day I received the following e-mail from Susanne, a woman who found out her some years ago that her husband has same-sex attractions. I felt so moved by her words that I asked her permission to share them with you on the blog. I (recently) saw your Doin Time... and I was the one who asked about your wife during the discussion period that followed. I just read your thoughts on What About the Spouse ....and I can say, most women who find out their husbands are gay feel ALL of those things you wondered about....some in more degrees than others... When my husband was dragged out of the closet because of his irreverent, immoral, and amoral behavior that our, then, 14 and 16 year old sons had to find on our home computer, I went into the closet. I didn't know what to pray for.... Do I pray that this will go away? Do I pray that he could go back to the way things were in our family before we knew about him,? Do I pray that I could go back to the way things were? After all ,...
Musings of Peterson Toscano, an ex-gay survivor and creator of Doin' Time in the Homo No Mo Halfway House, Transfigurations: Transgressing Gender in the Bible, and Bubble and Squeak podcast.
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I decided that the most loving thing to do would be to move you up on my prayer list. Currently, you are at #48 and I don’t always have time to get to you. So, for the next week, I am moving you up to position #3, right beneath my mother and her Pekinese.
I would put you ahead of the Pekinese, but you see he is blind in one eye and has begun only steering in the direction he can see in – so he tends to walk a lot in circles. This wouldn’t be such a big thing but the other day mom tripped on the carpet and started to fall. Well the dog was in front of her and as much as he tried to get out of the way … you guessed it, he circled right back and she simply crushed his little body. We’re afraid he won’t make it and mom is simply racked with guilt.
So if you could add Puffy and my mom to your prayer list as well that would be great.
Lots of love and keeping you in my prayers,
Nillo
Please tell Puffy that he's on my prayer list!
Marvin~
Your gonna be all right! I've joined Nillo in praying specifically for you (although I can't put you as high as #3 on my prayer list).
j.