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Kincaid's Response to "I Hate Being Gay"

Those folks at Ex-Gay Watch are keeping busy these days! If they keep this up, I won't ever have to write my own blog entries and simply post links to their fine work all day.

Timothy Kincaid of Ex-Gay Watch writes an exclusive piece for Advocate.com. In it he responds to an Advocate piece by Kyle White entitled I Hate Being Gay. In which White mentions an interest in getting ex-gay help. Of his same-sex struggle he writes,
Being a gay Christian is at times very hard to deal with. Some days I feel as if I’m at war with myself. But I know God would not approve of me acting on my gay feelings, and I have no right to question his directive. I know that in the end I will be happy I lived my life according to God’s standards the best that I could.

That means refusing to accept being gay
Kincaid replies,
I’m not going to try and change Kyle’s mind about his faith. Nor am I going to try and convince him to embrace his sexual orientation or discourage his political activism. But I do want to caution Kyle about his decision to participate in an "ex-gay" ministry.

snip

Kyle, when you have been told that you can "change," they do not mean that you will change your attractions. The change spoken about is only a change in how you identity yourself. You will be encouraged to view yourself no longer as gay but as a nongay person who suffers from same-sex attractions.
Well you can read the whole thing for yourself. "Ex-Gay" Lies and God's Love

In with all these postings, you MUST check out the latest with Marvin below!!! He is OUT! (Well out of Love in Action, but far from out of the closet)

Comments

SoulPony said…
those people seem terribly busy. I wonder how busy the ministry would be if they had to do it for free just because it's god's work?
12:04 PM
Jay said…
I wrote a piece about Kyle White's article on my blog not too long ago. Check it out sometimes if you have the chance. Kincaid is absolutely correct; the reason I don't support ex-gay ministries most of the time is because of their obsessive doting on "identity." It's funny, since I don't remember anywhere in the Bible that says "thou shalt conform to society's sexuality and gender constructs." Oh well...

Even though we disagree on some things, I enjoy the blog; keep up the good work.
12:19 AM
Peterson Toscano said…
Kyle, I checked out your piece. I like your perspective.

Identity is a funny thing and I think something that trips many of us up. So often I look at the "gay community" in the press or TV and I just don't see myself in it. It takes a lot of work to funny come out as ourselves. So many forces want us to conform to their way.
2:04 PM
Jay said…
Did you just call me Kyle? ;-)
7:35 PM
Peterson Toscano said…
Jay, I guess you really know your idenity. At least you know that you are not Kyle. That is a start. :-)
10:49 PM
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