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Ex-Gay Experiences Lead to Divorce

Barbara Leavitt, a woman married for over 20 years to a man who no matter what he tried could not change the fact that he is oriented to romance and attraction to men, has recently begun to speak out and tell her story.

Without bitterness towards her ex-gay husband, in fact, with great compassion and understanding, Barbara has told her story over on Beyond Ex-Gay, in video presentations and at press conferences.

Here is video of a recent press conference organized by Truth Wins Out in Tampa, FL in response to the Family Impact Summit, a gathering Christian leaders who went out of their way to spread falsehoods about LGBT people. They also promoted ex-gay conversion therapies and ministries.


Thank you Barbara for stepping up and telling your story.
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Mike Ensley said…
Do you think it's fair to title your post with a blanket statement like that?
11:28 AM
Peterson Toscano said…
Mike, fair to whom? The straight spouses who I know who married a gay or lesbian found it to be profoundly unfair, after years of marriage, having to start from scratch.

The vast majority of people I have met who entered a mixed marriage--straight with ex-gay--found that the arrangement to be unworkable and resulting in pain all around. This is true in the case of the Leavitts. I pulled the title from the wording of Barbara's statement posted on YouTube. As a public witness, people need to know that most people cannot live an ex-gay life, and to pursue one that includes marriage most likely will lead to divorce.
2:38 PM
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