The other day I received the following e-mail from Susanne, a woman who found out her some years ago that her husband has same-sex attractions. I felt so moved by her words that I asked her permission to share them with you on the blog. I (recently) saw your Doin Time... and I was the one who asked about your wife during the discussion period that followed. I just read your thoughts on What About the Spouse ....and I can say, most women who find out their husbands are gay feel ALL of those things you wondered about....some in more degrees than others... When my husband was dragged out of the closet because of his irreverent, immoral, and amoral behavior that our, then, 14 and 16 year old sons had to find on our home computer, I went into the closet. I didn't know what to pray for.... Do I pray that this will go away? Do I pray that he could go back to the way things were in our family before we knew about him,? Do I pray that I could go back to the way things were? After all ,...
Musings of Peterson Toscano, an ex-gay survivor and creator of Doin' Time in the Homo No Mo Halfway House, Transfigurations: Transgressing Gender in the Bible, and Bubble and Squeak podcast.
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OMG - am I masculine?!?! :O
Thanks
Clint
It is up now; I apologize for my sloth (isn't that a deadly sin?)
High heels (however goodlooking) are the tools of the devil though. I don't think anyone should be made to wear those.
BTW - aren't they really bad for your calf muscles!
One of my friends used to live in high heels, then got a job as a nursing assistant and part of her uniform was to wear flat nurse style shoes (reaallllllly comfortable - well, for me they would have been!)
Her calf muscles ached for weeks, poor girl was hobbling around the place for ages!
CA
Great line in the movie "She's the Man" when one character tells her mom she doesn't want to wear heels because they were just an invention by some men to keep women from running away.
Do you think you were either projecting something onto her when you first met her (because you were so excited about the prophecy and her being your potential wife), or are you perhaps projecting something now that you know she is a lesbian?
Have you heard the expression, "Do you know what you see, or do you see what you know"? Just wondering if it fits here.
Hope you don't mind me asking...I'm just curious (especially as someone who was an ex-gay and has experienced some shifts across the femininity spectrum).