John Smid and me-Graduation 1998 (above) & John Smid today (left) By now many have heard that Tennessee's Department of Mental Health & Developmental Disabilities determined that the "ex-gay" program, Love in Action, is operating two “unlicensed mental health supportive living facilities”. LIA has until Friday, September 23 to respond. If LIA statements in Eartha Jane Melzer's article are indicative to how the "change" program might respond, we may see LIA change right before our eyes from a clinical mental health compound into a house of praise and worship. Gerard Wellman, business administrator for Love in Action, and a former Love in Action client, said Sept. 13 that the organization has been in contact with the state but would not comment further. “As a church, we operate under a different set of rules,” Wellman said. Curious, and what rules might these be? What is even more curious is that according to LIA's site only one staff member ...
Musings of Peterson Toscano, an ex-gay survivor and creator of Doin' Time in the Homo No Mo Halfway House, Transfigurations: Transgressing Gender in the Bible, and Bubble and Squeak podcast.

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I don't know about you, but I start getting anxious when I feel dependent on others. (And I wonder if it is a Christian thing, or an American thing, when I start to feel that way.) But, I found myself breathing deeply a couple times after listening to you just to relax.
Listen... Peterson has my phone number. I'm a little bit wierd in that I have days when I don't like the phone much, but I try to be responsive to my friends.
And, it doesn't matter to me whether you think of me as a friend of yours, because I think of you as a friend of mine, OK? I'm serious about that.
Maybe your mom will run for groceries (or for a couple more fans) at some point, and you can call me.
I don't know for sure, but my guess is that, among the people who listen to you, I'm hardly the only one who cares about you a lot. Say the word, and they'll probably be there for you.
(20 years ago, I had an 88-y/o neighbor named Esther who I thought was kind of a drag -- she kept calling me for help reading and paying her bills because of her poor eyesight. When she died a few years later, I found out that she had actually given me an amazing gift, because she had refused to let her family see or help with her bills for decades. Sometimes, when we tell someone "I need you," we are giving them something precious, not taking or demanding.)
Take care, friend...